<转帖>孩子是因你而来,不是为你而来

秀色可餐

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今天偶然看到这首纪伯伦的诗，觉得很好，贴出来和大家一起分享
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On Children
Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
6 p/ [+ N  Q1 W  h8 |They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
: _& ~9 H/ s5 n6 ^And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
" L5 g9 `2 c: g' D0 Z# s4 yFor they have their own thoughts.
6 H0 L! w# Q2 {. W9 `You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
/ R# L" h5 f) ^6 ~6 ^0 Jwhich you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
" ?6 @! a; x1 V9 r, hYou may strive to be like them,
  c& o+ c9 [2 b5 c" D, q2 R2 t+ wbut seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
6 J7 ~) Y; C& y4 eYou are the bows from which your children
7 _+ M5 B- ^: i9 f" v# V6 kas living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
# x+ m  [# o% s' n" f* }0 mthat His arrows may go swift and far.
! I! ~) w+ [+ x& i' C5 K0 hLet your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
7 v* y. _/ u, fso He loves also the bow that is stable.

秀色可餐

下面是中文翻译，可能不是很贴切。当你真正体会到其中的涵义时，便会发现其中“爱”、“放手”、“分清责任”、“信任”、“尊重”、“正向信念”这些家庭教育的真谛都包含其中。
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你的子女，其实不是你的子女。
! P. v8 |  g8 d/ @3 `他们是生命对于自身渴望而诞生的孩子。
5 r# S; j! `5 v2 f& O* W/ C他们借助你来到这世界，却非因你而来。
& n7 h0 B- ^; H' D6 q他们在你身旁，却并不属于你。
; x  h. s% m7 @6 H7 a& |7 h你可以给予他们的是你的爱，却不是你的思想，
; G7 u* d8 L) ?! K因为他们有自己的思想。
你可以庇护的是他们的身体，却不是他们的灵魂，
( o0 \# M4 n5 q* l( N. T因为他们的灵魂属于明天，属于你做梦都无法到达的明天，
你可以拚尽全力，变得像他们一样，
, Y& K# Y% b8 a却不要让他们变得和你一样，
/ U) {, N: R" F" k, v5 ?因为生命不会后退，也不在过去停留。
, E) z+ n* a, [. B  w你是弓，儿女是从你那里射出的箭。
弓箭手望着未来之路上的箭靶，
它用尽力气将你拉开，使他的箭射得又快又远。
怀着快乐的心情，在弓箭手的手中弯曲吧，
% t% z% V" j$ R# s因为他爱一路飞翔的箭，也爱无比稳定的弓。

马桶上的思想家

太美了，而且句句精辟深刻！

钱小妹

体会体会，非常有理

Rainbowjj

真是好文，谢谢分享！！！