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* t2 N, Y- B1 D幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气# m. A8 {4 M; `2 j7 Q3 @: ~, i
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...1 Z4 }: E2 Y- f1 G- v! z
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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: ?3 Q* y) D& F我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。1 i! b; x# q' Z" n
% b8 I7 T- l% \ D2 C# {另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。
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& K8 G" d1 j5 y% E* m5 L对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举5 V! i' x9 ^: L8 D& \/ J
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For Kids:
3 h" ~/ m6 m) nNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. % T6 b' {/ q9 x/ X) M
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
& Q/ a( ]+ p/ r6 V8 p" q They are overindulged by too many presents.
1 Q- a1 }3 m6 o# ~' @# a( T. TThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
8 f S/ E1 p) p! r+ _6 C' yThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.1 g6 R J7 m, r# ~/ ^
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.7 t0 V% n" Y1 h
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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# k! q( f4 \8 h( q5 I; d1 j4 rFor Parents:
/ G' l1 w" `6 C M2 q4 SSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
$ A" ~7 d; g+ P; U3 n$ v( b6 TThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties.
( ~/ ^* B; B# d7 J9 }% W$ YThey feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with. 4 I3 W; ]5 s4 w/ F
They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.6 L+ K' \# G1 e0 t
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.: h- M( G% P* \7 C" E" F
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
/ Q0 a, z! n- c( W7 P. IThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties., ~ q7 N2 G4 z
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.0 ~# }5 n# s3 Z# ^# o
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For the Community and Culture: 3 ~3 ^4 p4 D% @, h! T& j% d9 k. T
This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A envy culture/ C7 d Q1 J. W6 ~. [0 U9 W8 I; j
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10